Nice Guys Get Treated Like $%!#

Fellas, have you ever met a girl you liked A LOT and decided to go outside your comfort zone and do some "extra nice" things for her so you could make a good impression? But by doing all this for weeks, or even months, you get a gut feeling that you're getting played like a SUCKA?

I been there and done that. And got played a couple of times in my life (Yea I admit it). You would think that a woman would like a man to treat her with respect. And let me be clear, I'm not talking about all women. There are A LOT of good women out there that know what they want in life. But they’re some women out there that are still STUCK IN HIGH SCHOOL. Same for us men....but that’s another topic...

Anyway, I want to talk about an experience I had with a lady: “When Being Nice Goes Wrong". I'll share a situation that I had to learn from and that changed how I deal with women...in a good way of course.

I talked to a girl (who's name will remain anonymous) from Miami for about a month or two, a very attractive 21-year-old young lady, who had me head over heels. She was Vietnamese & Jamaican, yellow bone, long black hair, body was BANGIN' AND she drove a Range Rover. I started thinking to myself "Damn, how did I end up pulling this off"...then it hit me that I am a pretty Fly, Young cat myself :)

We started to date and do the whole movies thing, took her out to eat here and there, we even went to Build A Bear in the mall and made a baby bear together

(We named him Simba...Awwwww) LOL.

Everything was going good until another month went by and I recognized she was texting me less and less, to the point that she wasn’t even replying to my text messages or calls. She would call me once a week and tell me everything was cool. But I had a gut feeling something wasn't right...but I ignored it and just played along with it.

During this time I loaned/gave her everything she asked for whether it was big or small. From Phone charger, to glasses, to money, anything she asked for it, she got it. Not on some "baller type" ish, more on the fact that I THOUGHT we was friends and her saying she would pay me back the money, I loaned her about over $700 in total money. Now I already can hear my homeboys (and even girls) saying "This N*gga Jaevery is stupid" LOL. But the way I feel about money is that Money Comes And Goes. And I always try to help people, because if I needed help, I would hope they would help me the same way. But after like 3 weeks went by and I started to get no calls, texts, or money back, I knew I got played like a SUCKA!

So fast forward, a month and a half goes by and I totally forget about her. I don't text her or call her at all. Then out of nowhere, I get a "Hey Jaevery, I miss you and can't stop thinking about you" text. I totally ignore it and a week later I get a longer "I miss you and can't stop thinking about you" text message. I reply back with "U full of sh*t". She replies back and starts acting naive like she doesn't know what she did to me a month and a half ago. I told her stop acting naive and stupid because you know you played me and now you want to act like I'm supposed to forget how you treated me and let you back in my life.

She kept apologizing to me and told me “it wasn't me, it was her.” Apparently she was in a long relationship and was trying to get out of it. After 3 years of loving a man that basically treated and talked to her like a dog, she admitted actually being scared of me because I was such a gentleman to her; made her feel comfortable and happy, and always had her laughing (Get a girl to laugh, you're in there like swimwear LOL).

What I don't get is how can you tell me "Oh, all I want is a man to love me, care for me, and treat me right. I'm soooo simple when it comes to my man and loving him"...Bulllllll SH!@! Then when you do get blessed with that opportunity you go treat that man like he's some "Poo Butt" a$$ dude, SMH. Now when you realize how good that man was to you and how good you had it…he's totally gone. And you expect that man to just jump into everything like it s all "honky dory"...WRONG...WRONG *Charlie Murphy Voice*

Moral of the story is, when you have something good ladies, at least respect that man, because there isn't that many good men out there for y'all anyways. That’s why y'all Dating, Talking, and Sexing the same dudes with your best friends...NOT COOLLLLLL! Understand that what’s another man junk, is another man’s treasure!

Oh, and if you was wondering..NO I GOT NO NOOKIE! LOL